Rails - Aug 2010 - OT ... Pot, meet Kettle (was "if then within <% %> region in html")

On 2 August 2010 16:43, Marnen Laibow-Koser
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wrote:
> I think it''s a guru thinking that it''s all right to be
uncivil if you know
> enough -- an opinion I do not really subscribe to
*cough* *splutter* :-)

urm... Marnen, I perceive the vast majority of your posts as veering
toward strongly uncivil in their tone. I don''t mean to say that to
insult you personally; just to point out that you often tell people in
no uncertain terms, without embellishment, very flatly, that they are
"wrong"; sometimes for even asking the question they asked. Often
times, when you do suggest solutions, it''s difficult to discern the
"help" from the "sneer".

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Michael Pavling wrote:
> On 2 August 2010 16:43, Marnen Laibow-Koser
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> wrote:
>> I think it''s a guru thinking that it''s all right to
be uncivil if you know
>> enough -- an opinion I do not really subscribe to
> 
> *cough* *splutter* :-)
> 
> urm... Marnen, I perceive the vast majority of your posts as veering
> toward strongly uncivil in their tone. I don''t mean to say that to
> insult you personally; just to point out that you often tell people in
> no uncertain terms, without embellishment, very flatly, that they are
> "wrong";
You bring up some interesting points here.

First of all, do you really think telling people they are wrong is ipso 
facto uncivil?  I do not.  I don''t really think anything is gained by 
avoiding the issue.

I am aware that I tend toward the blunt side when I write my responses, 
but I think there''s a huge difference between that and the rather 
mean-spirited tone that I recall noticing the last time I read ESR''s 
essay.

I certainly don''t think "civil" is the same as
"sugar-coated"; I aim for
the former, not the latter, on this sort of list.  However, I make every 
effort to respond to posts on this forum in a way that would not offend 
*me* if I were the recipient rather than the author of the post -- for 
example, you will not see name-calling or ad hominem attacks in my 
posts, and I make suggestions constructively wherever possible.  OTOH, 
if someone obviously doesn''t know what he''s doing, I see no
point in not
(politely) pointing out that that''s the case.

Of course, I realize that everyone''s sensibilities are different.
> sometimes for even asking the question they asked. 
Examples?
> Often
> times, when you do suggest solutions, it''s difficult to discern
the
> "help" from the "sneer".
Examples?

If you want a guideline: it is vanishingly rare for the "sneer" to be 
intentional in my posts.  This is part of what I am referring to as 
civility.  I just don''t do that unless fairly heavily provoked, and 
usually not even then.


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On 2 August 2010 17:15, Marnen Laibow-Koser
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wrote:
> Michael Pavling wrote:
>> On 2 August 2010 16:43, Marnen Laibow-Koser
<lists-fsXkhYbjdPsEEoCn2XhGlw@public.gmane.org>
>> wrote:
>>> I think it''s a guru thinking that it''s all right
to be uncivil if you know
>>> enough -- an opinion I do not really subscribe to
>>
>> *cough* *splutter* :-)
>
> You bring up some interesting points here.
>
> First of all, do you really think telling people they are wrong is ipso
> facto uncivil?  I do not.  I don''t really think anything is gained
by
> avoiding the issue.
No, I agree that there isn''t necessarily a causal relationship between
correction and lack of civility.
> I am aware that I tend toward the blunt side when I write my responses,
> but I think there''s a huge difference between that and the rather
> mean-spirited tone that I recall noticing the last time I read
ESR''s
> essay.
I can''t comment on a comparison, as I don''t recall reading any
of the essays.
>
> I certainly don''t think "civil" is the same as
"sugar-coated"; I aim for
> the former, not the latter, on this sort of list.
That''s fair enough, and nice to hear.
> for example, you will not see name-calling or ad hominem attacks in my
> posts
Absolutely, and I''d even add, that when people start on you, you
don''t
just tit-for-tat back.
> OTOH,
> if someone obviously doesn''t know what he''s doing, I see
no point in not
> (politely) pointing out that that''s the case.
>
> Of course, I realize that everyone''s sensibilities are different.
That''s the rub; if you look at the times you''ve been railed
on, it''s
due to a reply that wasn''t interpreted as being that polite.
> Examples?
> Examples?
I wish I could give some; I had a quick look in the archives, but
since you post from Ruby Forum, there''s no quick way to filter just
your posts. I''ve probably got some threads way down in my inbox, but
don''t want to dwell on it too much.
I tell you what; next time it all kicks off, we''ll dissect it ;-)
> If you want a guideline: it is vanishingly rare for the "sneer"
to be
> intentional in my posts.  This is part of what I am referring to as
> civility.  I just don''t do that unless fairly heavily provoked,
and
> usually not even then.
*I* know that :-)  But all I''m saying is that a lot of other people
seem to not get that, and it was just your claim to "an opinion I do
not really subscribe" that made me spray coffee on my keyboard!



PS Please don''t anyone think that I''m accusing Marnen of
anything I''m
probably not worse at; being uncivil and short with people who ask
poor, easily Googled questions.

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