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I'm still playing with ideas on how to split rstate from wstate (so that we can send a request without waiting for POLLIN to complete a pending reply), but this is some preliminary refactoring I found useful. I also fixed a couple of bugs while in the area (already pushed). There's a question of whether we want nbd_handle to be nearly 5k, or if we should instead keep it small and add one